Much Ado About Sex
What is it
about sex that makes the world go round? Yes, we know it sells, why? What is it
about sex that makes it a basis of a lot of relationships? Why in the world
does it warrant all these synonyms? Intercourse, romp, fuck, shag, making-love,
doing the deed, jiggy and my personal favourite.... coitus, just to name a few.
What the hell is it that is so important?
In this day
and age, it seems to account for 80 percent of the surface Web and its illegal
cousin, child porn, better known as Hard Candy for the experienced, winks. (that
wink means absolutely nothing!... sigh, I hope am not on some list now). Anyways, Hard Candy reigns supreme in the deep
Web, away from the auspice of a certain office in the FBI (they don't see everything..
hmmph). This just goes to prove that we are sexual beings, products of sex.
Slaves, of...sex?
We could
dial back to popular axioms like "use what you have to get what you
want" to rationalise it as a currency of some sort. A means to an end
which unusually almost usually results in gross advantage being taken of a certain
party. Or we could just tip the scale with "it's the world's oldest
profession" and be done with it (call it a day and sip some pinot noir....
I'm done with crumpets, hopefully).
We could
also! ... say that the Homo Erectuses that scientists believe are our genetic ancestor
got bored, in the absence of Facebook, Twitter, Playstations and basically
everything that keeps us company today, got their freak on a lot to make up for
the free time that they had. This apparent habit led to the build-up of libido,
which is the constant urge to have sex and this has been maintained through the
years. The idea of us loving sex because a couple of cavemen couldn't keep
their hands off themselves doesn't sound all that attractive ei?... it really
doesn’t.
But
regardless, the importance or better put, the presence of sex in our society
can never be overemphasised. Some circles have ostracised it, embellished it. Even
a number of religions have made it a 'filthy' and 'adulterous' act. 'Giving in
to the wants of the flesh' they call it, so they turn their noses against it
and ignore it, wishing it would go away.
No, sex
won't go away. And the overly simplistic but often avoided process of sex
education is very important. I read somewhere that a married couple went to
counselling after a few years of marriage because they were having difficulty
getting pregnant just to discover they were not 'doing it right' (No, I kid you
not). This example is laughable and sad at the same time.
Apparently,
we also really need to bring down the age for sex education from the budding
adolescents approaching puberty, to the 5-7 year olds who are most likely to experience
molestation and abuse. Accounts from previously abused adults state that they
almost always have no idea what is going on and they have a nagging feeling that
they have done something wrong. Parents really should teach their children to
speak up when that Uncle or Aunty is touching them 'somewhere'.
So what
really causes much ado about sex? It is simple, sex is a currency. Almost
labelled 'illicit' in society. Some refuse to deal in it because they believe
it besmirchs, while others can't do without it. It is a global currency that
transcends language barriers, only body language and everybody has theirs to spend. Well, Spend
wisely.
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Your observation is great. I like this article, and I just learnt some new facts (lol) but great observation once again.
ReplyDeleteAh, thank you, thank you. *bows a little while the crowd goes wild*
DeleteMaking sense since 1830...
ReplyDeleteAh, Egbon, that is too far back :(
DeleteThankss... :)
ReplyDeleteI think that's looking at it too simply. You make a great point on the interpersonal aspect of sex, the fact that it's a currency, but in my opinion you lose out on the importance of sex to the system.
ReplyDeleteConsidering how low the survival rate of newborns was in the Neolithic age, an increased sex drive was indispensable in efforts to ensure the survival and the eventual success of the human race.
Evolution didn't plan (technically it's totally arbitrary and never plans, but that's beside the point) for preventative methods. Condoms totally morphed our approach when it comes to sex, but one could also say that they have levelled the playing field between the sexes, at least to a certain extent. Whereas the man could in earlier times have many partners, the promiscuous woman was far more likely to suffer socially for her (mis)deeds. In a way this may still be the case, but to me that's more residue of former social structures rather than something that is caused by current circumstances.
The above comment in no way reduced the efficacy of your article though, it was a great read.
Well, the importance of sex cannot be overemphasized, we have sex to repopulate the earth (obviously). But I really did not want to talk about sex in its entirety, rather, the noise, hype and the effect it has on our day to day relations.
ReplyDeleteEvolution might have had other plans, but pleasure and our regard of 'pleasure' has tainted the views we have of sex. I agree with your point about the playing ground being leveled, excellent observation. There are moral, psychological, even spiritual (I live in a country where animism still thrives) importance attached to it. But this is about the Ado about sex which is not necessarily the importance of it.
Great contribution, had a lovely time reading your comment. Please visit some other time.